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Series on Gaslighting anyone?
We are planning on doing a series on gaslighting, the more subtle ways that this happens. Sometimes Narcissists engage in this behavior as a way to control situations. However, this also happens in ways that I call Accidental Gaslighting. Let us know if you are interested in hearing more.
Greyrocking
I listened to the first episode and I'm seeing my mom in my head. I've heard about "grey rocking," but I'm wondering if this is a good method to deal with family like mine who's really... tough to talk to... or if it'll just set them off more.
This is a great question, we may use it on the podcast. Grey rocking is a good technique to use when someone is being provocative and just wants to start an argument. If the person continues to escalate, change the subject and find a way to end the conversation.
The struggle is real
What advice would you give someone who recognizes red flags but struggles to act on them?
Thanks for this question! Many people have difficulty navigating conflict. It can be unhelpful sometimes to address red flags with a red flag person if it will just start an argument and they won't listen. It depends on the situation. Some people end these relationships. Sometimes you can't end a red flag relationship for many reasons. In that case it is figuring out how to limit contact and how to have strong boundaries (eg: if you yell at me I will end the conversation). Maybe we will do an episode on this to talk more about different scenarios : )



Oooh, yes, please, more on that. And I second amaryllis111's question: addressing the ways we gaslight ourselves would be great. It seems like a lot of times I am either a willing participant in someone's attempts to gaslight me, or I do the work for them. Are there ways that a gaslighter encourages you to gaslight yourself, or is it all in you yourself? Do they seek out people who tend to gaslight themselves willingly? I feel like I always get found by people like that.